On Saying No - It is hard, but... | /en/2017/11/on-saying-no/

Guest *Jean Marie Cimula* @ 2017-11-16 09:25:59 originally posted:

This article reminds me one of William Ury's books that I read a few years ago: "The Power of a Positive No: Save The Deal Save The Relationship and Still Say No".

访客 *大鹏* @ 2017-11-16 11:14:14 写道：

One has developed a software package A, which depends on package B. If any updates from B, one has to come back to A and check the compatibility. Why does B update? Because of C. and so on so forth. It never ends. I miss windows 98.

@pzhaonet

Guest *Liechi Zhang* @ 2017-11-16 16:32:08 originally posted:

It is really hard to say no. Most of the time, I feel a bit guilty when I have to refuse someone. Now I can keep a smile, say no, but still feel guilty. I hope to keep all my yes, so I need to say no now and then, it is really hard. I may need to come to this blog often.

@liechi

Guest *Scott Kostyshak* @ 2017-11-16 19:01:35 originally posted:

I have this problem more with social engagements than feature request (maybe a social engagement is a feature request?). I don't enjoy large social gatherings, such as parties. But as you say it is hard to say "no" without feeling you offend someone. I try to explain that I just don't enjoy such settings, and that I am an introvert, but often people do not understand. I've found that my close friends do make an effort to understand, and that that's what's important.